IMPRESSUM #1

Today is February 17, 2017, time check: 2:17am.

I decided to add this category Interview under the name “IMPRESSUM” in my blog to feature people I know, I have known or will know in the future. Since this blog is created solely to inspire other people, I thought that maybe sharing  other people’s stories would be a great medium to inspire others. I will have 10 questions for every people that I will feature.

  1. Describe a typical day for you.
  2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself & why?
  3. What’s in your bag?
  4. What’s your favorite book/movie/song of all time and why did it speak to you so much?
  5. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
  6. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you
  7. How would you spend a million dollars?
  8. What’s an ideal weekend for you?
  9. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?
  10. Finally, happiness is…

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Hide And Seek

We’re standing across the room, but it feels like we’re the only two people in that room. We’re both in conversation with other people, but it doesn’t matter, because I am not listening. Not really. I just steal one quick glance and feel the moment. For only God knows when will I be able to feel the warmth of your smile again.

 

As Long As It Lasts

I always yearn for  you, every inch of you. Whether we run out of things to talk about, or words to say, it seems right whenever it’s you. I need to feel your presence. I want to feel you near. You are my vice, my only vice. It’s ironic how you destroy me inside at the same time lift my spirit up.  I was never empty of you and your memory. Never for a moment, not an instant, neither a single second. Continue reading “As Long As It Lasts”

Unspoken Words

Nobody needed an explanation why

the ocean is blue and so is the sky.

I don’t need a million reasons why,

you make my heart skip a beat even if you didn’t have to try.

I may be cold as ice but you are hot as fire.

Just like a kid, you’re clueless about how much I admire.

Nobody warned me about this mess,

should I just forego and pursue to digress?

I cannot fathom the thought of you gone,

but i know someday all of these will be bygone.

I was always strong and ready for whatever,

I can  mask the worse seem better.

I may have lots of things to say,

maybe I’ll let you know someday,

when I am ready to see you run away

but the abyss in my mind, you’ll hear it screaming “stay”. Continue reading “Unspoken Words”

Fill Your Life With Experience

 

Travel is never a matter of money but of courage.

We were ambivalent in pushing thru this hike because apparently, the weather was not going well. It is a 2-hour drive from the city. We surely packed everything that we needed such as cameras, food and drinks, and of course courage and determination to push thru despite of the bad weather.wp-image-75497160jpg.jpg

These were part of the trails we needed to climb. It is not that steep as it seems.  The Rockpile Trail along the actual lake is approximately 300 meters long. Continue reading “Fill Your Life With Experience”

The Best Form of Love

“You cannot give what you do not have.”

 I started to fall for someone, rather, infatuated at a very young age. Nobody taught me what was the difference between love and infatuation then. Labeling it was not important. For me, all I know is that this person was the center of my school days, everyday. I can still remember every time I gaze up on him without being noticed. I was not a stalker but maybe a die-hard fan of someone who is just an ordinary person on anybody’s eyes. For me he was so special. Days passed, we both grew up and my feelings was given a chance. Everything went fast but just like a summer love kind of story, everything was shattered into pieces. It was very emotional for me.  After that first outbreak of romance, It seemed like I experienced different kind of whirlwind romance on and on. They all gave me thrills, they all caused me tears but I knew deep inside that they were all different.

“There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice.”

                                                                                                                            F. Scott Fitzgerald

In the end, I thought, why do we all need to compare? Why do we usually resent the one who hurts us the most? Maybe because we don’t want our ego to be stepped on just like that? So, who did we really chose to love in the first place? Why are you hurting in the first place? Is it just because that someone hurt you or is it because you choose to love yourself? Why you are crying with that heartbreak? Because you thought you deserve someone better than him. You knew that he is not the right guy and yet you fell for him or maybe you both have the mutual love that everybody’s looking for but the timing is just not right. You can have all of the reasons in the world but in the end, the reason you are crying is because of him.

The only time you know you have moved on and let go is when you don’t blame someone for your feelings except for yourself. You stop acting like a child and start to take responsibility of your actions. Little by little you will realize that the love you’ve had whether it is your first love or you thought it’s ought to be the greatest is not the kind of love you think it was. What’s good about heartbreaks is in this phase, you start to love yourself. You started from bitterness and eventually you’ll come at a point to choose whether to forgive that someone who hurt you, or just forget everything and start anew or do both. Both of them are not easy. But whatever you do, whatever you choose, you should know that every single thing you do is not ONLY bounded between him and you. Most importantly, you do these things for yourself. So, when someone will ask me what is the best form of love, I will answer “Loving yourself is the best kind of love”.

Forgive yourself, accept yourself, love yourself.

 

Why Do People Seek Change

         “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new”

Socrates

   No matter how good or bad things are going, people constantly seek for change. Sometimes, we need change but often people tend to change even though they don’t need it.

  1. Wanting something more. We as human beings always want something better. Got the latest phone model? After a month or two, there’s gonna be a new model that you are going to dream about. You have to have that phone and of course you will buy it. The cycle goes on and on. It is like an addiction. It is natural in human behavior to crave to be the “best”. No matter how nice or how pure you are, there is at least one time that you thought your grass should be the greenest among all.  And then you’ll come across someone having a lot greener grass than yours. We do always look at the better. And most of the times, wanting something more lets you end up with the worse.
  2. Fed up of literally everything. There will be one of those days where you will feel you’ve had beyond enough. Whether from work, personal life, financial or social, or any aspect of life. You will feel tired and all of your energy sucked up. You literally feel nothing and then the idea of the need to change comes in. You’ll do something beyond unthinkable that might save you from your own pit of misery.
  3. The need for sense of control over your life. Who does not want to be in control? To live your life with control is a deep human being need. When you are in control, you feel a lot much safer because you feel less harm can be inflicted to you. This sense of control satisfies people of their needs.

“A loss of the comfortable state of harmony that we seek has been defined as shift towards either chaos or rigidity”

                                                                                                                              Siegel (2008)

Whenever we feel everything is out of control, everything seems to be in chaos. On the other hand, if there is sense of control, we feel powerful.

4. People just get bored. Sometimes, People reinvent themselves to get out of boredom. People seeks its way out of his mundane existence. Why? Because they are just bored. People wants everything in a snap of a hand. People are in for “instant” stuff. Most of the people are addicted on being spontaneous just to break the routine that they are having. Come to think of it, time is so slow when you are bored, right?

At the end of the day, it is up on the individual if that change might be beneficial or not. For sure, as cliche as it may seem, one thing that remains is change is inevitable.

I ride alone but it never felt lonely anymore.

“There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than liking your own company.”

Almost everybody in their quarter life has a fast-paced lifestyle. No me-time, no time for this and that, schedule’s too crowded, always on the go, fast food sometimes is the best choice for meals, no time to be alone and at peace. I don’t know about you but i really value my solitude, a time for me, myself and I. I feed my soul by reading books (esp. Elizabeth Gilbert’s), I cherish the quiet times away from traffic noise and pollution but sometimes, due to external factors such as work, school, different occasions/holidays, paper works and errands, I slowly lost my inner peace. I noticed that I am slowly becoming a robot that do nothing except going with my everyday routine. I did not had enough time for my self. My thoughts are becoming meaningless. That was my problem until one night came and I rode the subway as i go home. Nothing uncanny or special happened. It is my same world of mundane every single day. But at that night as I go home from work, I suddenly wanted something new that could happen right away. I craved for a change. So, when I rode the subway, I tried to sit on the floor. Nothing special eh? People always do that. But for me, that was so special because it was my first time to do that and it was a little bit awkward for me ’cause I am not used to sit like that in public places. But I did. To satisfy the cravings of change I had within me.

“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be truly fulfilled.”

My subway ride usually takes 15 minutes from home to work and 30 minutes from home to school. I never thought that I spend to much time in commuting. As I sat on the train floor, first thing that i felt was a great relief. After a long tiring day, I got a chance to relax. I realized it is more comfortable to sit on the floor than on a chair inside the train. I don’t have to mind other people’s elbows bumping on mine. I don’t have to pretend that I am sleeping just because sometimes it makes me feel awkward sitting in their with other people’s face right in front of my face. I don’t have to sit up straight and avoid getting too much space because other people beside me might feel uncomfortable. I suddenly felt I don’t need to worry about other people. I sat in the floor, relaxed, feet crossed and minding my own business. I read a blog post about Zaha Hadid and her works (Godbless her soul). I drank my cup of coffee, listened to my earphones. And then I caught myself daydreaming. It is funny because I am a loud,talkative,outgoing person but I really enjoy being alone. For the first time, I never have to worry about other people anymore. I realized, this is a perfect way of having my long time craving, my “me-time”. As I walked on my way home, I had a fulfilling sigh.. I am thankful for that subway ride because I felt complete and had a grip on “me” again after a long time.

True and lasting inner peace can never be found in external things. It can ONLY be found within. And then once we find and nurture it with ourselves, it radiates outward.

– Buddha

Mermaids rescued my soul.

There was freedom in this place. The touch of the wind feels liberating as i reached for it.
My palms were wide open as i embraced the uncertainty of my stay.  I  soon began to curl my toes underneath where the sand follows my movement. Soon enough bigger and bigger the waves came. The water tasted salty,not exactly the same from the  familiar salt that usually my mom uses whenever she cooks. I hear the laughter fading into the background. I hear the mermaids calling my soul. Continue reading “Mermaids rescued my soul.”

Kikki-K Medium Sized Peach Perforated Planner Unboxing

Hi! welcome to the unboxing of kikki-k’s medium peach perforated planner! Kikki-k is an Australian/Swedish brand and community that sells stationary supplies, generates craft ideas all about art and paper love! This last February, I got a gorgeous package from kikki-k and it’s absolutely stunning! Continue reading “Kikki-K Medium Sized Peach Perforated Planner Unboxing”

How Silence Calms our Soul

Spending time alone allows us to develop more meaningful relationships not just with others but within ourselves as well. “To be fully human we need relationships with other people, with the nonhuman world, and with our own inner depths. In solitude we have the opportunity to explore all these domains of relationship” (Kull, 2008, p. 319).
Our brain is wired to connect. People are often drawn to things in related with socialization as if it is a physiological need. Everyday we are preoccupied to socialize to the extent that meaningful relationships and real connection are slowly fading away in the background.

(headlights. photo taken at metro manila using d5100 nikon)

We always keep in touch with others yet we forget to keep in touch with ourselves. In order to have a meaningful relationship with others, we first must have a deeper connection within ourselves. Solitude offers time for us to be emotionally aware of ourselves and our feelings for us to be able to cultivate deeper relationships.

WHOSOEVER DELIGHTED IN SOLITUDE IS EITHER A WILD BEAST OR A GOD

– Aristotle

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The Mask I Live In

Take a piece of paper and jot down words that you could use in describing yourself. How do you see yourself? (I know you did not do it because it’s just a waste of time or maybe you are preoccupied on some things other than describing yourself.) But it is likely that there are some words that played in your head upon reading the first sentence that could actually describe you and somehow that’s also what other other people might see you. Some of them might have positives and negatives but hey, that what makes you who you are. These words makes you as a unique individual person. Continue reading “The Mask I Live In”

Summum Bonum

What defines your happiness? Maybe a nice weather while cuddling in bed with your espresso and your favorite book or maybe it is when you get to spend time with the people you love the most. Some of us might define it just like any other dictionary says, a state of well being. Some might say happiness is just as same as dolce far niente or the sweetness of doing nothing. Oh, maybe an email from an overseas friend or tons of likes that you get from social media. Satisfying physiological needs? Passing grade? Having peace of mind perhaps? It would take infinity to identify things that makes us human beings happy but it only takes a second to know if you are happy or not. Just one question, are you REALLY happy? Continue reading “Summum Bonum”